What causes worries/pain
I can find only the following three things to be causing worries for anybody in this earth.
1) Wrong goals
2) Unrealistic goals
3) Not working towards realistic goals
Examples for Wrong goals:
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a) Being rich would satisfy all my needs and wants.
b) My team will succeed if all my subordinates in the team do what I assign them to do without pushing back.
Examples for Unrealistic goals:
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a) My children who are not disciplined today would be disciplined 10 years later, without any effort from anybody.
b) Expecting that manager would always give the work which we like.
c) Expecting that best things would always come to me automatically.
d) Expecting that we will do our best even when we are tensed up.
e) Expecting that if I get good grades I will get the best job in the best company.
f) Expecting that others will measure my intelligence 100% accurately.
g) Expecting that we would get the best knowledge from our elders and parents because they love us.
h) Expecting that others would act exactly the way we want them to do.
i) Expecting that everything will work as we expect them to do.
Examples for "Not working towards realistic goals":
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a) I will earn lots of money without putting any effort
b) I will solve all problems without putting effort to develop knowledge and skills.
c) I will develop a theory to explain a phenomena without thinking about it much.
A catch here is that any realistic goal can turn into an unrealistic goal in a second. For example, thinking that I will live for 90 years and achieve certain things can be a realistic goal. It can turn to an unrealistic goal when I come to know that I am affected by CANCER. ( As of now we don't have a cure for this. We might take few more years to find cure for this). But we are generally not prepared to accept the truth that a realistic goal has changed to an unrealistic goal when it has happened.
Similarly unrealistic goals can turn to realistic goals in a second. For example, thinking about satisfying everybody's electric power needs with zero running cost might be unthinkable today. But tomorrow we might have efficient and cheap solar panels to satisfy everbody's needs. ( This might really become true in another decade. We receive 89000 terawatts of Solar power in earth. As of now the whole earth is using just 15 terawatts of power. And we can only use 1500 terawatts of power without affecting earth's environment )
1) Wrong goals
2) Unrealistic goals
3) Not working towards realistic goals
Examples for Wrong goals:
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a) Being rich would satisfy all my needs and wants.
b) My team will succeed if all my subordinates in the team do what I assign them to do without pushing back.
Examples for Unrealistic goals:
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a) My children who are not disciplined today would be disciplined 10 years later, without any effort from anybody.
b) Expecting that manager would always give the work which we like.
c) Expecting that best things would always come to me automatically.
d) Expecting that we will do our best even when we are tensed up.
e) Expecting that if I get good grades I will get the best job in the best company.
f) Expecting that others will measure my intelligence 100% accurately.
g) Expecting that we would get the best knowledge from our elders and parents because they love us.
h) Expecting that others would act exactly the way we want them to do.
i) Expecting that everything will work as we expect them to do.
Examples for "Not working towards realistic goals":
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a) I will earn lots of money without putting any effort
b) I will solve all problems without putting effort to develop knowledge and skills.
c) I will develop a theory to explain a phenomena without thinking about it much.
A catch here is that any realistic goal can turn into an unrealistic goal in a second. For example, thinking that I will live for 90 years and achieve certain things can be a realistic goal. It can turn to an unrealistic goal when I come to know that I am affected by CANCER. ( As of now we don't have a cure for this. We might take few more years to find cure for this). But we are generally not prepared to accept the truth that a realistic goal has changed to an unrealistic goal when it has happened.
Similarly unrealistic goals can turn to realistic goals in a second. For example, thinking about satisfying everybody's electric power needs with zero running cost might be unthinkable today. But tomorrow we might have efficient and cheap solar panels to satisfy everbody's needs. ( This might really become true in another decade. We receive 89000 terawatts of Solar power in earth. As of now the whole earth is using just 15 terawatts of power. And we can only use 1500 terawatts of power without affecting earth's environment )
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